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Will They Ever Listen?

Here you are, with all the right intentions, wholeheartedly, trying to help them, guide them…
You have been there, you have the experience and answers, but they would not take them, and are willing to make the mistakes…worse, they are willing to fight you, but not to listen…

The more you love them the more you are hurting!

“How often do you find yourself in a situation, were others will just not listen?
They could be your children, your parents, your friends, your coworkers…”

He was a very tall man, you could not tell his age, as he had a very upright posture.

Maurice was in his eighties, and here he was sitting in front of me with a sad face:

“Erik he said, I am not a young man anymore, and despite my good health, I will not live forever…

My life has not been easy, I have overcome many obstacles, challenges and gained great knowledge and wisdom. I was  blessed with two sons and a daughter, we have been blessed with eight grandchildren, and they have grown up fast, but one thing is bothering me…

Erik I have so much to share and give, but they would not to listen to me, and honestly my life would have been complete unless I could share even some of my knowledge with them.

Honestly, I am hurting inside and I do not know what to do.”

How often do you find yourself in a situation, were others will just not listen?
They could be your children, your parents, your friends, your coworkers, your customers…

I knew what the problem was, and here is what I have told Maurice.

Maurice, you are a great man. Your family loves you dearly, and there is no doubt in their minds that you have great experience and knowledge to share. But there is something that we, all of us, have a very hard time to overcome. It is be loved, and before you close your mind to this statement, please listen carefully…our need to feel strong and important in the eyes of others is to receive their approval and their love.

You see, I believe that everything begins from Energy. Sharing and Giving always positions the “giver” above the receiver. Your children and grand children want to be loved and respected by you and by others. For that they need to take the stand of the “giver” to feel worthy of others respect and love. This is our nature, and we can not nor should fight it.

There is only one way to share knowledge and wisdom with your family and to be heard. Maurice, you have to ask them for their help first, give them the opportunity to share with you, their ideas, their experiences. Acknowledge their achievements, respect their efforts as imperfect as they may seem.

Make them feel that there is a reason for you to respect and love them. Bring them to the giving platform. And in the process of listening, you will get your opportunity to guide and share with them.

Just like a mother who wants to teach her young daughter the ways in the kitchen, could say: “Come my love, help mommy bake a pie”,  guaranteed that the respect the young child just received would be enough to open up to learning. As now, giving up her toys makes scene…

There was a big smile on Maurice’s face, as if he has just got a nights sleep…he held my hand and said:
“ My son, I will Try”.

Often it is not only about the knowledge of “How to”, but the Energy “To Do” it…
Energy, Awakening new life perspective!

It will not be easy at first, as often you may have to give up proving others wrong, proving yourself right, showing how important you are in their lives…but to do the exact opposite and simply ask for their help and make them feel important!

Have you had similar moments in your life…with your Children, Parents, Friends, Business?

Go ahead and try this simple way…
than, please share your story here for all of us to learn from…

Intriguing your Senses! Provoking your Mind! Harmonious to your Heart!

Please Take 20 minutes and watch this Incredible Presentation…

Benjamin Zander is a gift to humanity!

He is known around the world as both a guest conductor and a speaker on leadership. He uses music to help people open their minds and create joyful harmonies that bring out the best in themselves and their colleagues.

Erik

This is our third week teaching Meditative Story Telling to School Children.

I have to share a secrets with you…even though the children range from 5 years (in the lower elementary classes) to 15 years old, they (the children) are doing so well!! They seem to love the stories, and naturally follow the meditation.

As it stands today, I only had a chance to visit about half of the intended classes and only once.

Here is a short article I recently wrote for the school:

“Meditation and Social Science for Children”

The word Meditation has been used in connection with many old and new relaxation techniques and traditions.

Let us look at the nature of meditation.

For both adults and children, Meditation is the most natural process initiated by our body to reach a state of relaxation and rejuvenation.

The most overlooked meditation, of course is sleep. This is the most natural way where your body volunteers you to a relaxed state of rest and rejuvenation. (there are times when sleep is necessary, but difficult and I promise to speak of it in another article)

Meditation like state is automatic during all creative moments, writing poetry, playing a musical instrument, artistic expression during dance even sporting events. That would explain why it is very difficult to be creative when tiered.

Natural states of Meditation will also occur during moments of extreme danger, when your focus is necessary, for survival. Even during positive emotion of love and joy, we will have this incredible surge of energy and meditative state.

During these natural meditative moments we often find that time just seems to pass without our noticing it.

“Meditative Story Telling” for children is an integrative approach to learning where stories are presented to teach important social lessons and Meditation is used as a tool help naturally relax the body and the mind, inevitably improving social interaction and academic progress.

As mentioned above: “The word Meditation has been used in connection with many old and new relaxation techniques and traditions.”
During the Social Science classes, Meditation is a “Quiet Time”. With their eyes closed, the children are encouraged to simply self observe relax, notice their breathing, their thoughts, and simply listen to the natural guidance of their body.

As the children relax they often notice their body naturally guiding them through very unique intuitive stretching exercises, postures and movements (often even naturally guided to the floor).

This natural form of Meditation has been designed promote relaxation and rejuvenation, but has proven to do much more…

Teaching the children the skills of this self regulation meditation at an early age has proven to help them to be more confident, achieve better social skills, to better retain new information, become more creative, show more positive initiative and much more.

We are hoping that soon this meditation tool will be available to all students, in both private and public school systems.

This is my second week at the school. The children are absolutely amazing the principal and teachers, are helping so much, to make this “a journey to remember”…thank you all!!

Here is an introduction of what we will be teaching through the 40 weeks of school. (new chapter will be reviled every week!)

This is Zak’s Story on his adventures, discovering his personal treasure, based on his Captain’s Log he named “ Forty Weeks at Sea”

Please note: This is a fictional story and any resemblance to real people or events are not intentional and purely coincidental.

Preface

I dream a treasure and a map

To sail to far lands harbors

Through deep blue waters, our boat is fast…

My Captain’s cap and boots to last

Dark Nights

High Winds

and Burning Sun

My mind stays strong on target!

***
They’re no Pirates, but a Team
A Group of Lovely People
Here To Help Me With My Dream
To Light My Path A Little

***

Far from home

Through stormy nights

We reach a friendly harbor

The smell of food

And sweet delights

I wish I had a shower

***
They’re no Pirates, but a Team
A Group of Lovely People
Here To Help Me With My Dream
To Light My Path A Little

***
It must be here

The map is right!

Bring your shovels

Bring your might!

We’ll have our treasure, by tonight!

***
They’re no Pirates, but a Team
A Group of Lovely People
Here To Help Me With My Dream
To Light My Path A Little

***

An Ancient scroll?

Another Map?!

Help!! Bring the candles!

This may be it…

My treasure after all!!

But wait, it can not be

By following this map

It leads me home!!

***
They’re no Pirates, but a Team
A Group of Lovely People
Here To Help Me With My Dream
To Light My Path A Little

***
Dark Nights

High Winds

and Burning Sun

My heart beats fast

We’re home at last!

***
They’re no Pirates, but a Team
A Group of Lovely People
Here To Help Me With My Dream
To Light My Path A Little

***

Captain’s log…

I still can’t believe I am the captain of this ship?

But all evident shows it is true,
I woke up this morning and a Captains Cap lying right next to me,
on the side table on my left

I quickly found the bathroom mirror,
It was me alright, me and my usually uncombed hair staring right back at me,
truthfully, I am looking a bit older than I remember myself to be,
but I think I even like it that way

As I stepped out of my cabin, everyone referred to me as Captain Zak
(Captain Zak Sir )

Well, here we are…

I do not know were to begin…and I’m not used to keeping a log on my life
This just somehow feels right…

and before I knew it there was this big book in front of me…
with big letters: Captain’s Log on the cover…

This is a heavy book indeed,
As I opened it up, expecting to read The The Captain’s Log – the book was EMPTY!

A book of this size, Brown leather cover, the yellow pages..looking almost antique…
and what do you know, an ink pen right next to it…How would you feel?

I was not given much choice…

If the man is right…

Anyway, here we are my first log

Captain Zak’s log Day One

I feel as if I have been on this ship forever…

There are some things which we acquire on our journey,
these things take “Time”, through hard work and effort.

But others, you just discover “Suddenly” in an instance…I will try to write more about that later!

Each Day that passes is teaching us something,
and than the next day and the next…once the day is over
we seem to have Gained some new “intelligence”,
I thing they still call it “lessons”…

You can get these lessons in school or as “life lessons”.
(hopefully both, I am so happy I was not thrown in to
this journey without proper schooling)

As the man wrote: “If Days Could Speak”…

and sometimes I think they do…